Most people's first response to grief is shock and…
Most people's first response to grief is shock and numbness ... We can only feel these strong emotions in small increments ... The pain is forcing you to face this new reality and to face it you adapt ... As you adapt it gives space to think about questions like ~ Where am I at now? ... What does this mean? ... If you try to block all the natural grief ... you function okay but your capacity to feel is greatly reduced ... so that you don't exactly know what you are feeling ... It is the love and connection to others that enables us to survive through when we feel pain caused by grief ... When a loved one has died it is the love of others we need most ... Additionally ... you have to find ways to care for yourself personally ... A grieving person might be extra hard on themselves ... They might sabotage themselves in various ways and not do anything about it because it might bring shame ... You need to first be compassionate with yourself then get help from others so that the grieving process isn't isolating but instead warm and connected to others ... Our world is also a digital world ~ What if we no longer interpersonally know someone? ... There are a lot of support groups out there for people that are grieving ... You can volunteer at organizations or clubs that match your interests ... You just have to get one step out of your comfort zone ... To help you snap out of feeling sorry for yourself take small steps ~ Do the first Google search ... Everyday make a little progress.